Here is the definition I found online:
flirt: playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest; It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact.
Think about that Krispie Kreme again .... now if that is dangling out there in front of us, we will first look at it ~ and then [for those of us who like Krispie Kremes] we will react by reaching out to touch it.
So ~ if we are going to carry that principle over to us, our bodies and guys, what does that look like? First [being visual], they are going to look at what we have dangling out there for all to see .... and then they may react by reaching out and touching.
NOW ~ if you're the one dangling things out there, that may not be the reaction you wanted. Perhaps you just wanted them to look ~ or perhaps you even wanted them to wish they could touch .... but CERTAINLY NOT to actually touch you. What you have to understand is that isn't how God created them. The three young ladies on page 97 & 98 found this out the hard way.
A lot of flirting starts with our tongue. The Bible talks a lot about this very small part of our body. It compares our tongue to a rudder on a ship {you know, the part that steers the WHOLE boat}. Read James 3:3-6 ~ the tongue is able to corrupt the whole person.
Remember back in Chapter 3 we talked about building lives of sexual integrity and living a life of balance. Integrity = what you are when no one else is looking. The table legs of our lives were mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. [pg. 26] Are your thoughts right? Are you dressing modestly and acting like a young women of integrity ~ not flirting or leading a young man on? Is your focus on God and what His Word says?
She who loves a pure heart and whose speech is gracious
will have the King for her friend. Proverbs 22:11
Don't miss God's promises to you at the top of page 103. God created you and loves you so much ~ He will meet all your needs!
May the words of my mouth and the meditation of
my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord,
my Rock and my Redeemer.
Psalm 19:14
